All my single ladies!

I got the song stuck in my head so I figured I would just go with it and write about single women. :)

I want to say this first: Girls, if you are single, whether it is through choice or through not having much luck, take the time to embrace this. You really need this time in order to become solid in who you are as an individual. Have a strong understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, and know what you want to be better at before you get into something. Its a lot harder to do these things once you get into a relationship because you have another person's view of you already in place. They see you as a certain way. Also, assuming they are committed to you, will love you no matter what, and love can be blinding. I would really suggest taking this time to make sure that anything they could turn a blind eye to is something trivial, like biting your nails! ;)

For those who are just getting out of a relationship: I know how much it sucks. I have been there before. However, keep this in mind- you're no longer in it for a reason. Either the other person isn't who you thought you were, they did something to hurt you, or anything else you can think of. But if these things happened, then you don't need to put up with it. If anything, it should show you that you're better than your situation.

Making it widely known that you're single is also just going to scare guys. Honestly, if a guy were to look at a girl and she has "PICK ME! PICK ME!" written all over her, it sends off a message that you're extremely desperate. It says "I don't care who you are or if we're compatible, I just don't want to be single anymore." Do you really want to give a potential significant other that message? Same goes for those who are "overly ready" to get married and settle down. This makes others believe that if they get into a relationship with you, they would have to go that far with you if they wanted to be with you, or risk severely hurting you. Most of us want to get married and settle down, but you need to let things run its course.

*Insert chirping voice coming from the back of the room* But Bridget, you're in a relationship now- how can you say any of this?

Glad you asked, chirping voice!

I am currently in a relationship but I have learned that pushing things just because it seemed like the "next step" or "the thing to do" because I had to learn the hard way (through break ups and nasty fights) that things need to naturally run its course. If someone wants to settle down with you and stay with you, then that's great. But forcing this won't help your situation any.

And if you're not with someone at the moment, that just means you haven't found the one for you yet. Take this time to just enjoy being you, instead of part of a team.

Trust me, you and future relationship(s) will thank me for it!

~Bridget Nicole

PS: Enjoy :)